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Healing "Home for the Holidays"

12/19/2014

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Ideally, spending holidays with family brings us great joy.  But for some people, holiday travel to see family is something to endure.  It can trigger challenging feelings, miscommunication, fear, and sadness.

If you are one of the people for whom holidays are sometimes less than delightful, what I’d most like you to keep in mind is that you are stronger than your feelings and you are more than your past. 
What you focus on grows.  You could focus on what happened in the past, and your holidays could be the same old rehash of outdated roles and ways of behaving.  Or you could try using the tools below,  They can help you flourish in circumstances where you might have expected to whither.

Four Tools for a Healing Holiday


1.  Set an intention.  Before you even get out of bed in the morning, set an         intention for your day.  Keep it simple and positive.  After you think it,             imagine how it would feel to actually live it.  Some possibilities:

    “I intend to be kind to myself and others.”

    “I intend to respond rather than react.”

    “I intend to let my best self lead.”

2.  Ground, center, and protect.  Before I met the amazing Sharon Gardner,         I thought that anyone who was truly healthy could set an intention in the         morning and then be Little Miss Sunshine all day.  And since I often forgot     to act on my intentions, I would start beating myself up.  But now I know         that when we are healed, we forgive ourselves and we use tools to keep         us on the path we want to be on.  You can use these tools for yourself,             and also for others.

            Ground:  Imagine or visualize that something wonderful flows from                 the sky, through you, and deep into the earth.  Lately, I have been                 imagining a gorgeous tree, with vibrant leaves filling the sky above                 me, the trunk running through me and keeping me steady, and the                 roots flowing deep into the earth.  Some other possibilities:  a column             of light, a waterfall.

            Center:  Imagine that you and the source of all life are one.  I do this             by imagining that the tree of me is also filled with shimmering light.              For you, another image may work.  Think of what helps you feel                     connected to the best in others. 

            Protect:  Visualize that this grounded, centered you is also                              surrounded by a beautiful protective bubble and that only the                         experiences that truly serve you can enter that bubble.

3.  Breathe.  Remember.  Repeat.  Since you’re breathing anyways, if you          can let your breath be slow and deep, it will help you to stay present and     figure out your next move.  Remember that you have set an intention,             and that you are grounded, centered, and protected.  You can repeat             these visualizations many times a day, any time you need support—they         take only seconds. 

    Also remember that you don’t have to react to everything that happens.      If repeating the tools isn’t working, practice the art of healthy                        distraction.  Go for a walk.  Wash the dishes.  If there are pets and                 children, play with them! 

4.  End your day with grace.  While you brush your teeth or pull back the             covers, consider what went right today.  Rather than noticing the                     challenges, what if, just for a few moments, you think something like:

    “Well,  X situation  went better than it did before (even if it’s just the             tiniest shade of better)”

    “I am proud of myself because, even though I started to say X, I stopped         myself.”

    “Tomorrow is going to be even better.”

Remember:  What you focus on grows.  Take this opportunity to demonstrate, to yourself and others, how much you’ve grown.

Here’s to your healing.



2 Comments
David Blair
1/14/2015 01:09:15 pm

My wife Linda and I started Mariposa, hoping that families would come and have just the experience you describe. Thank you for writing about what your visit.

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Deidra
1/23/2015 01:41:46 am

Keep up the great work, David. It's such a joy!

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